3 Things to Remember When Enough Doesn’t Seem Like Enough

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Have you ever felt like everything you do just falls short of whatever it is you are working towards? If you said no you are more than likely lying and it is time you accept your failures. It is normal to feel disappointed after a failure, all humans experience this feeling of dissatisfaction. While it is perfectly normal to feel disappointed when you experience failure, repeated feelings of disappointment over time can lead to stress, anxiety, which can then lead to depression.

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There are a few things to remember when you feel like what you are doing isn’t enough.

 

 

 

  1. Think back on all your success. As humans, we tend to focus on the negative things when something goes wrong and forget everything we have done right. By thinking back on your successes after a failure will help you remain focus that you can and will accomplish the goal you are trying to achieve.

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  1. Do not compare yourself. Every human is unique and goes through different trials and tribulations. Your best friend may excel at something the first try, whereas it takes you a few times to have success. And vice versa. NO two humans are the same, so stop comparing your failures and successes to other people’s.

 

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  1. Remind yourself to get back up. People tend to stop trying to do something after a few failures. Giving up seems like the easy way out, but really it is the lazy way out. Always remember, no matter how hard you fall, how you get up is what others remember.

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Hopefully you can keep these three tips in the back of your mind when you are feeling like enough isn’t enough. Regardless if it is a failed relationship, failed test, you got fired, etc. remembering these three things when you feel like your enough is not enough will aid you in positively enhancing your mental well-being.

 

 

Keep on, keeping on.

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

http://www.destinationgreatnesspllc.org/

 

About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

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3 Reasons Women Harbor Guilt and Shame: Part 1

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Yanla Vansant

For many women being all you can be is a struggle and a burden that is too heavy to bear.  In a time when women are wives, mothers, single mothers, working outside of the home and have demands from every corner there are some things that may fall by the wayside.  When this happens it can be so devastating to women that she begins to harbor guilt about not being able to do everything that she believes is expected of her.  The shame of not measuring up can also eat at her sense of self.  There are several reasons why women harbor guilt and shame but today let’s discuss these three:

  • Past Experiences of Abuse or Trauma
    • Many women have been victims of abuse.  Some have been abused from an early age.  The abuse could have even caused long-term trauma, or maybe the trauma was a witnessing of a horrible situation.

In these instances, women usually blame self for what happened.   The person who did the horrific thing has moved on but the individual who experienced it or witnessed it has held on to the guilt and shame of it.

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  • Feelings of being all things to all people
    • This is an area that many women also struggle with.  It is in a woman’s nature to be nurturing so she wants to do what she can to help those she cares for.  The problem with that is that everyone who knows her will call on her to fix it, serve on the committee, drive the carpool, chaperone, or whatever it may be.

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Trying to help everyone is unrealistic causing her to feel that she is letting people down.  No one is able to be there for everybody.  That is unless you are Jesus, and I do not believe that you are.

  • Oppression
    • Women have been told for centuries that she is not good enough, pretty enough, educated enough, tough enough and will never measure up to her counterpart.  Women have been let down, stomped on, held back, and giving up on to the point when she feels that she is not worthy of any good thing or happiness.

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That is what being oppressed can do.  It can devalue everything that God said was good in you.  When women listen to what the world has to say about them instead of what God says about them then she begins to harbor guilt and shame.

Being able to understand why women harbor guilt and shame can be the first step in rectifying the problem.  For those who need assistance in organizing your thoughts Destination Greatness is available to help you sort them out.

Until next time keep the faith!

By:  Kristen Pettaway, MA LPC Liberty University |

Clinical Case Manager Intern Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

 

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3 Things to Remember When Enough Doesn’t Seem Like Enough

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Have you ever felt like everything you do just falls short of whatever it is you are working towards? If you said no you are more than likely lying and it is time you accept your failures. It is normal to feel disappointed after a failure, all humans experience this feeling of dissatisfaction. While it is perfectly normal to feel disappointed when you experience failure, repeated feelings of disappointment over time can lead to stress, anxiety, which can then lead to depression.

enough

 

There are a few things to remember when you feel like what you are doing isn’t enough.

 

 

 

  1. Think back on all your success. As humans, we tend to focus on the negative things when something goes wrong and forget everything we have done right. By thinking back on your successes after a failure will help you remain focus that you can and will accomplish the goal you are trying to achieve.

 success

  1. Do not compare yourself. Every human is unique and goes through different trials and tribulations. Your best friend may excel at something the first try, whereas it takes you a few times to have success. And vice versa. NO two humans are the same, so stop comparing your failures and successes to other people’s.

 

people.jpeg 

  1. Remind yourself to get back up. People tend to stop trying to do something after a few failures. Giving up seems like the easy way out, but really it is the lazy way out. Always remember, no matter how hard you fall, how you get up is what others remember.

standing 

Hopefully you can keep these three tips in the back of your mind when you are feeling like enough isn’t enough. Regardless if it is a failed relationship, failed test, you got fired, etc. remembering these three things when you feel like your enough is not enough will aid you in positively enhancing your mental well-being.

 

 

Keep on, keeping on.

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

 

About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

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3 Things to Remember When Enough Doesn’t Seem Like Enough

Uncategorized

Have you ever felt like everything you do just falls short of whatever it is you are working towards? If you said no you are more than likely lying and it is time you accept your failures. It is normal to feel disappointed after a failure, all humans experience this feeling of dissatisfaction. While it is perfectly normal to feel disappointed when you experience failure, repeated feelings of disappointment over time can lead to stress, anxiety, which can then lead to depression.

enough

 

There are a few things to remember when you feel like what you are doing isn’t enough.

 

 

 

  1. Think back on all your success. As humans, we tend to focus on the negative things when something goes wrong and forget everything we have done right. By thinking back on your successes after a failure will help you remain focus that you can and will accomplish the goal you are trying to achieve.

 success

  1. Do not compare yourself. Every human is unique and goes through different trials and tribulations. Your best friend may excel at something the first try, whereas it takes you a few times to have success. And vice versa. NO two humans are the same, so stop comparing your failures and successes to other people’s.

 

people.jpeg 

  1. Remind yourself to get back up. People tend to stop trying to do something after a few failures. Giving up seems like the easy way out, but really it is the lazy way out. Always remember, no matter how hard you fall, how you get up is what others remember.

standing 

Hopefully you can keep these three tips in the back of your mind when you are feeling like enough isn’t enough. Regardless if it is a failed relationship, failed test, you got fired, etc. remembering these three things when you feel like your enough is not enough will aid you in positively enhancing your mental well-being.

 

 

Keep on, keeping on.

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

 

About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

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