Improving Happiness in Children

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It is known that showing love and affection positively helps children. In fact parenting styles, shape children for life. Below is an excerpt from a post on parent.com, on How a Parent’s Affection Shapes a Child’s Happiness for Life.

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“How often do you hug your children?

We all live busy, stressful lives and have endless concerns as parents, but it is clear that one of the most important things we need to do is to stop and give our kids a big loving squeeze. Research over the past decade highlights the link between affection in childhood and health and happiness in the future.

According to Child Trends – the leading nonprofit research organization in the United States focused on improving the lives and prospects of children, youth, and their families – science supports the idea that warmth and affection expressed by parents to their children results in life-long positive outcomes for those children.

Higher self-esteem, improved academic performance, better parent-child communication, and fewer psychological and behavior problems have been linked to this type of affection. On the other hand, children who do not have affectionate parents tend to have lower self esteem and to feel more alienated, hostile, aggressive, and anti-social.

There have been a number of recent studies that highlight the relationship between parental affection and children’s happiness and success.”

 

The rest of the post can be found at, https://www.parent.com/how-a-parents-affection-shapes-a-childs-happiness-for-life/.

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Keep on, keeping on.

 

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

 

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About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

 

 

 

Self-Love: The Best Love

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Loving yourself is essential to living a healthy lifestyle. Often, we tend to want to love someone else, before we love ourselves. For some, loving the skin you’re in is hard, and that is why some focus on loving someone else.

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Loving yourself first will allow you to be happier with life. It’s simple if you love yourself first, you will find it easier to love someone else. By choosing to love yourself first, you are able to be a better you. You are showing people that you are comfortable in your own skin and you create positive vibes others will want to be around.

There are many ways to show yourself self-love.  For example, telling yourself positive things every day in the mirror will boost self-love. Go on walks and taking care of your physical health is also a way to express your love for yourself. Eat healthier, take a bubble bath, spoil yourself every once in a while, to show yourself that self-love is the best.

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Someone who loves themselves first, then focuses on a relationship, will likely be easier to get along with and will be able to have a healthier, longer lasting  relationship.

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Keep on, keeping on.

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

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About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Factors of a Healthy Relationship

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Having a healthy relationship is key to having a successful, long lasting relationship. There is not a perfect relationship. Everyone has issues, but there are many factors that add up to equal what a healthy relationship should look like.

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For starters, to be in a healthy relationship a couple must be committed to each other. There should be no “others”. Being committed to only one person allows you to stay focused on the one you want to be with. There has to be a mutual respect between the couple, by being committed to only one person, this shows you respect them.

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Second, communication is key. Having communication skill is essential in expressing what you need and want from your partner, and vice versa. If you cannot tell them what you need or want, how can they give it to you?

Third, to have a healthy relationship a couple must support each other. Sometimes this can be the hardest thing, especially if you do not agree with your significant other’s choice, but supporting your partner in most things they do is vital to a healthy relationship.  support.jpeg

Last, having separate friends and identities from your partner is needed to have a healthy relationship. Sure, you can and should have other couples and friends you hang out with, but eventually you will need space away from your partner. Allowing yourself to have friends that do not know, or are not close with your partner gives you someone who you can vent to when they are on your nerves or you just need a break from them.

 

Keep on, keeping on.

 

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

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About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Love and Mental Illness

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It’s finally February and love is in the air! This month my posts will be dedicated to all things relationship and love related. We will begin this theme, by discussing the broad topic of love and mental illness.

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With or without mental illness, relationships are tough, adding the factor of a mental illness just makes the challenge a little greater. Though some may think it is impossible to love or be loved by someone with a mental illness, you are very wrong. There are plenty of people who are very much in love with someone who has a mental illness, or who has a mental illness themselves.

Below, is an excerpt from PsychGuides.com, about love and mental illness.

 

“We surveyed more than 2,000 people in the U.S. to explore the effects mental disorders can have on relationships, comparing responses from men and women to see where these experiences and concerns diverged by gender. Our respondents opened up about how forthright they are about their mental health, how supportive their partners are, and which insecurities they encounter.

First, let’s get a closer look at our survey respondents. Among those who completed our survey, 64 percent reported having some type of mental disorder. Anxiety and depression were the most common issues among respondents, together comprising over 44 percent of reported mental disorders.

Anger was the third-most-common issue. A number of disorders comprised around 5 to 6 percent of mental disorders: substance abuse, addiction to sex/porn, other addictive behaviors, ADHD, and eating disorders. Fewer respondents reported OCD, panic disorder, sexual abuse, and PTSD.

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Unfortunately, even today there can be a stigma attached to mental health disorders, which can make people reluctant to tell even those closest to them that they have a mental health condition. We asked our respondents who have mental disorders whether they shared their diagnosis with their partner. Nearly three-quarters of women told their partners about their mental health issue, but only slightly more than half of men disclosed the information.

Relationship experts have found that healthy long-term relationships require honesty and trust, so it’s best to disclose a mental health disorder before experiencing an acute episode that could bring it into the open. If you’d like to learn more about navigating a relationship while dealing with a mental health disorder, visit PsychGuides.com.”

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To read the full article please visit, https://www.psychguides.com/interact/love-and-mental-illness/.

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

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About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Recognizing Suicidal Behaviors

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Suicide is likely considered the most extreme measure someone who Is suffering from a mental illness can take. By definition suicide is the act or an instance of taking one’s own life  voluntary and intentionally. No one should ever feel so alone that they have to take their own life. Please, if you or someone you know is showing any sign of suicide, get help.

According to MentalHealth.gov there are many warning signs you should look for in yourself or a loved one. Please seek help from a medical professional if you or someone you know are showing any of the following signs. Remember you can always call 911, if you or a loved one is in immediate need of help.

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There are also hot lines you can call to talk to a trained professional if you or a loved one are having these feelings and symptoms.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline  at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Trained crisis workers are available to talk 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. As well as the Veteran’s Crisis Line at 1-800-272-8255, then press 1.

 

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All of the following signs should be taken equally serious.

 

  1. Talking about wanting to die or talking about wanting to kill oneself. Black Tears
  2. Researching and finding ways to kill oneself.
  3. Talks about having no purpose and feeling hopeless
  4. Talks about feeling trapped
  5. Talks about being a burden to others
  6. An increase use of drugs and alcohol
  7. Sleeping patterns change, sleeping too much or little
  8. Withdrawing from society
  9. Showing anger and talking about seeking revenge
  10. Showing extreme mood swings.

 

 

Keep on, keeping on.

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

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About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Finding Mental Health Help

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Though around 1 in 5 people suffer from some sort of mental illness, the lack of knowledge about them and knowledge about getting help is extremely high.

Below is part of a post from NAMI’s Webpage about where to begin when seeking mental health services.

 

 

“Should We Seek Mental Health Care From PCPs?

Seeking mental health care from PCPs poses both pros and cons. While primary care providers are not trained mental health specialists, they are frequently on the front lines of initially diagnosing, treating and managing mental health conditions, so they do bring some experience. “Patients often share symptoms or express concerns to their PCP before ever thinking of going to see a psychologist or psychiatrist,” says Claudia*, a nurse who works in an adult primary care office.

 

This isn’t surprising to me, since I also didn’t think to go straight to a mental health professional. As it turns out, I’m not alone. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), one-fifth of all primary care visits address mental health concerns, often resulting in at least one mental health “indicator.” These indicators may include a depression screening, a referral to counseling, a mental health diagnosis or a prescription for a psychiatric medication. This makes sense given that we typically know our PCP and have a relationship with them, and because there’s no stigma attached to seeing a PCP.

Even though our PCPs may be our first instinct—and may feel like a safe choice—several factors often limit the capacity of these health care professionals when working with patients experiencing mental health conditions. These limits include brief appointment times, inadequate reimbursement rates for mental health diagnoses, competing demands of preventative care, confidentiality and disagreements among specialists over what type of care is best for their patients. Now that I’ve been in therapy for several months, I’ve noticed that my PCP and therapist don’t always agree on a treatment plan. I often feel conflicted on whether or not I’m making progress—and to whom I should be going to for mental health care.

 

According to the National Institute of Mental Health, “the primary care provider can treat mental disorders, particularly through medication, but that may not be enough. Historically, it has been difficult for a primary care provider alone to offer effective, high-quality behavioral health care.” Research has found that the most effective treatment plan includes a combination of therapy and medication, especially for depression and anxiety disorders. However, many patients are hesitant to accept mental health referrals—sometimes because of stigma, but more often because of the challenge of finding the right, or any, mental health professional in their area.

Many areas of the country have few to no psychiatrists. And those that do often come with added barriers, like lack of insurance coverage or the dreaded, “I’m not taking new patients,” which I experienced even in the D.C. area. This makes it challenging for many to follow up with much-needed mental health care.

“One of the biggest challenges, and personal frustrations of mine, is getting patients set up with a quality, trusted mental health provider in their area,” explains Claudia. “Many times, all we can do is advise patients to contact their insurance companies for a list of covered providers in their area and hope they find someone who can help.”

From personal experience, it’s clear to me that my therapist is my one-stop-shop for maintaining my mental health. I can see her once a week, whereas I rely on an online messaging service to communicate with my PCP. I also know that my therapist’s background and training are in mental health, and she likely sees dozens of patients like me a week; mental illness is her specialty. Because of these reasons, it just makes the most sense to go to a mental health care professional if you’re seeking mental health care—if you can find one.

It really is up to the individual—and their loved ones by providing support and encouragement—to continue to seek out the best possible care they can. And while the care we receive from a PCP may not always immediately lead to mental health care, it is a step in the right direction. The most important thing is to start somewhere when seeking the help you need.”

 

The full post can be found at. https://www.nami.org/Blogs/NAMI-Blog/January-2018/The-First-Step-in-Getting-Mental-Health-Care.

 

 

 

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

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About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

 

 

 

Forgiveness: A Key to Happiness

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One of the hardest things to do for many people is forgive those who have wronged them in someway. Regardless if it was a little spat or something more serious, not forgiving someone can cause you more stress than the actual problem.

By forcing yourself to be mad and upset with this person, you are using energy in your everyday life that could be used doing something more positive, like laughing more.

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I know there are things that cannot be forgotten. However, I do think that if people forgave others more, then people  as a whole  would be happier. No, I am not suggesting letting these people whom you have probably cut out of your life back in, nor am I suggesting you become best friends with this person again.

Sometimes, forgiving someone who has wronged you in the past, is more difficult than actually moving on. By forgiving this person you are letting go of a negative energy that you do not need. By letting go you are creating more space in your life for happiness, so go on forgive, but you don’t have to forget.

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Keep on, keeping on.

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

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About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

10 Things You Should Know About Mental Health

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Have you ever thought about how your friends view mental health?

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Luckily, many of my friends like myself, are psychology majors or have some type of back ground related to psychology. However, I do have a few that are less familiar with the topic, this post is for them.

I am not poking fun or calling you out, because you are ignorant to the topic, but I do want to spread my knowledge on the subject, being that so many people suffer from mental illness related issues.

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Listed below are 10 things I want my friends who are not educated on mental illness to know:

  1. Different people experience different things. There is no one size fits all mold when it comes to mental illness.
  2. Talking about mental illness/ mental health is not weird.
  3. Mental illnesses are not just figments of someone’s imagination.
  4. Medications are not the only way to help someone cope with mental illness.
  5. Some people need to be medicated, and that too is okay.
  6. No, you can’t “catch” mental illness.
  7. Mental health is just as important as physical health.
  8. Mental health and mental illness is not restricted to one race or gender.
  9. You cannot heal overnight, things take time.
  10. Don’t be afraid to ask questions, do your research.

 

Hopefully, this post will help you see the world in a different light. Maybe it will inspire you to help someone else, or maybe you will just read it and forget about it.

 

Keep On, Keeping On.

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

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About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

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5 Things People With Mental Health Issues Want You To Know.

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As promised for 2018, I am trying spread as much knowledge about mental health as possible. There are many stigmas that surround mental illness. From the stereotype of a psychopath, to people assuming that having a mental illness means someone is sad 24/7; the stigmas surrounding mental health and mental illness are unending.

There are 5 things that everyone should know about mental health and mental illness.Black Tears

 

  1. It’s not always sadness. Though many people with mental illnesses suffer from deep depressive episodes, having a mental illness does not always mean someone is sad.

 

  1. Medication doesn’t mean everyday will be a good one. Though medication does make living with a mental illness easier for some people, taking medications doesn’t guarantee that there will only be good days.

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  1. Do not make sly remarks about a diagnosis. If someone has trusted you enough to tell you about their mental illness, you should not make rude comments or make fun of their diagnoses.

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  1. People with mental illness are not lazy. Sometimes getting out of bed and going to the kitchen, or bathroom is all a person with a mental illness can do. If someone is coming off a mania or suffers from severe depression, all they may physically be able to do is sleep, this doesn’t mean that they are lazy, it simply means that they likely are not getting enough sleep and their bodies are trying to make up for it.

 

  1. Sometimes, I might seem “normal”, but I just am coping with my illness better. Living with mental health issues is hard. Sometimes people come off as having everything together, and they seem to be symptom free. However, these times are often when a person is coping better. Maybe they have started a new medicine or a new method of coping.

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Remember, you likely know someone who suffers from a mental health problem, from anxiety to schizophrenia, living with a mental illness is not easy. Always keep in mind the 5 bullets listed above.

 

 

 

Keep on, keeping on.

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

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About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

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MENtal Health: The Importance of Mental Health Awareness in Men

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Last week in my life span development class, we learned that in the United States although more women attempt suicide, more men die because of suicide.

This statistic was not surprising to me, as I know that there is a lack of mental health awareness for men in the United States.

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As the mother of a boy, I know it is easy to just want your son to be athletic and “tough” all the time. You forget to encourage them to talk about their feelings and that it is okay There are pressures from other family members and competition between male siblings and cousins to be the best at athletics. While focusing on athletics, boys tend to forget about their mental wellness. However, it is extremely important to stress mental wellness to young boys and men.

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By encouraging mental health awareness for men and young boys you are setting them up for a less stressful future. Individuals who understand the importance of mental wellness tend to be less stressed throughout life.

 

You are also decreasing the amount of physical aggression and anger in men by teaching them how to talk about mental illness issues and how to live a healthy lifestyle when it comes to mental wellness. According to the National Institution of Mental Health, “some men with depression or anxiety disorders hide emotions” causing them to “appear angry or aggressive when they express their emotions”.

 

By teaching your sons, nephews, and husbands to effectively express and talk about their mental wellness, one is helping them live a better lifestyle.

Remember it is completely okay for boys to express their feelings! Everyone deserves to be able to talk about their mental wellbeing, including males!

 

 

Keep on Keeping on.

 

Katheryn Burton

Clemson University, BS Psychology ’18

Case Management Intern

Destination Greatness, PLLC

 

About Destination Greatness

Destination Greatness is a mental health and substance abuse psychotherapy agency dedicated to assisting individuals and families in maximizing their level of functioning on all life domains in pursuit of Greatness. Destination Greatness provide individuals and families with the opportunity to live more fulfilling and meaningful lives. Destination Greatness strives to enrich each individual and family through greater self-awareness, focus on strengths, and belief in a greater destiny.

 

 

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